Famous Friends: T. S. Eliot and Groucho Marx

British poet T.S. Eliot and American comedian Groucho Marx became friends when Eliot wrote Marx saying he was a fan and asking for an autograph. Marx reciprocated. They corresponded for several years and finally met in 1964, when Marx came for dinner. Seeing pictures of Eliot’s esteemed friends on the wall, Marx requested that his be added too. Eliot agreed but never complied. The friendship morphed into a sniping rivalry. Nevertheless, when Eliot died a few months later, Marx wrote that they had in common an affection for good cigars and cats, and a weakness for making puns.” Read The Sister Knot about two resilient women, orphaned in WW2, who defy fate to sustain a lifelong friendship. A compelling novel about the power of sisterhood. Learn more about the book in NOVELS.

Eliot and Marx, poet and punster, had a friendly rivalry

Two resilient women, two separate journeys, one lasting friendship

Famous Friends: Nick Carraway and Jay Gatsby

In The Great Gatsby by F. Scott Fitzgerald, Nick is more a sidelined narrator rather than a participating friend. Gatsby uses Nick, yet Nick vicariously relishes Gatsby’s romanticism. In the end, the relationship turns out badly for both. Read The Sister Knot about two resilient women, orphaned in WW2, who defy fate to sustain a lifelong friendship. A compelling novel about the power of sisterhood. Learn more about the book in NOVELS.

The Great Gatsby ends badly for the title character & his sidekick friend

Two resilient women, two separate journeys, one lasting friendship

What I’m Reading: French Braid

My Goodreads and Amazon review of French Braid by Anne Tyler (Rated 4) – Form Follows Function. French Braid, the title of Anne Tyler’s latest novel, refers to the structure of the book as well as the nature of families. A French braid is constructed by plaiting a handful of tresses and working your way along the scalp, adding others to create one multi-level integrated structure. The more you add, the sturdier the braid, with thicker hairs holding thinner ones in place. Such is the nature of four generations of the Garrett family, their forebears, and those who will follow. They don’t always agree with, understand, or even like, one another, but they are nonetheless interwoven. This theme is perhaps best illustrated in the recurring scenes of children bringing their “intended” spouses home to meet their parents and siblings. Approval is not required but the ritual must be observed. It is in capturing the small details of family life — both intimacies and irritations — that Tyler excels. The Garretts are essentially well meaning, if occasionally clueless, people. In other words, they’re your average American family. Readers will warm to them, some individuals more than others, and not always the ones you initially expect to take a shine to. My only criticism is that it is sometimes hard to keep the cousins straight; some are mere wisps and their nature, like fly-away hairs, don’t add to the braid. As a novelist myself (see my Amazon author page and Goodreads author page), I wish Tyler had given these secondary characters more substance or snipped them out altogether. Wisps aside, French Braid is a small but satisfying novel with deep and enduring truths about the strands that inevitably draw families together.

Plaited people in plaited chapters

Why writers read: “If I could always read I should never feel the want of company.” – Lord Byron

What I’m Reading: Laughing in Her Sleep

My Goodreads and Amazon review of Laughing in Her Sleep by Alycia and Jon Vreeland (Rated 5) – Laughing in Heaven. There are two ways to read Jon Vreeland’s poems in Laughing in Her Sleep: One at a time or via total immersion. Either way, pause over the penetrating illustrations by Alycia Vreeland. Unlike her colorful paintings, her line drawings are as dark and dense as Jon’s poems. Some are as whimsical as his words. Jon is obsessed with Death and Drugs (D & D). Some poems surrender to the depths; others are aspirational. Jon reaches for something better or (literally) higher. His judgements are harsh (especially toward himself) but his sympathies are generous. He can also be very funny! Jon sees, hears, and smells beauty as well as ugliness. Wherever he aims his senses, Jon doesn’t shy away from life’s crazy mixture. As a prose fiction writer (see my Amazon author page and Goodreads author page), I revere Jon’s storytelling talents. Each poem has a setting, salient details, and characters whose interactions are “small” but never insignificant. Jon imbues them with meaning, be they comforting or confrontational. His self-written obituary is as refreshingly arrogant as Jon himself, according him the glory he wasn’t granted in life, except by those who knew and loved him. And for whom, if not them, is the obit written? I won’t comment on the life review that ends the book (since I compiled it) except to say I was honored to be asked and entrusted with the precious memories his family and friends shared. Jon’s death is both a personal and a literary loss. We are fortunate his words live on. I trust he and Hemingway are laughing together in writers’ heaven.

Wrenching words, penetrating pictures

Why writers read: “Read to make yourself smarter! Less judgmental. More apt to understand your friends’ insane behavior, or better yet, your own.” – John Waters

Famous Friends: Max Gendelman and Karl Kirschner

Gendelman was a Jewish American soldier captured in World War II; Kirschner a German pilot. Gendelman was imprisoned in a camp next to the family farm where Kirschner was recovering from a combat wound. Sneaking the prisoner through a hole in the fence, the men met to play chess and drink coffee. Kirschner eventually helped Gendelman escape. When the war ended, Gendelman helped Kirschner emigrate to the U.S. Gendelman said of the friendship, “We saw in each other an immediate connection, a brother.” Read The Sister Knot about two resilient women, orphaned in WW2, who defy fate to sustain a lifelong friendship. A compelling novel about the power of sisterhood. Learn more about the book in NOVELS.

Gendelman & Kirschner: Jewish American POW & German soldier unlikely friends

Two resilient women, two separate journeys, one lasting friendship

Famous Friends: Adi and Rudi Dassler

The Dassler brothers ran a German shoe company together for twenty-five years until they had a falling out, variously attributed to feuding wives or conflicting politics. In the late 1940s, they started separate companies. Adi founded Adidas and Rudi created Puma, rivals to this day. When the brothers died in the 1970s, they were buried at opposite ends of the cemetery. Read The Sister Knot about two resilient women, orphaned in WW2, who defy fate to sustain a lifelong friendship. A compelling novel about the power of sisterhood. Learn more about the book in NOVELS.

Dassler Brothers, Adi & Rudi, feuded, founded separate companies: Adidas & Puma

Two resilient women, two separate journeys, one lasting friendship

What I’m Reading: Baby Darlin’ by Alycia Vreeland

My Goodreads and Amazon review of Baby Darlin’: A Graphic Memoir by Alycia Vreeland (Rated 5) – Raw and Righteous. Baby Darlin’ (BD) grows up in a house full of shit. Literally and figuratively. BD wants to love, to be loved, but is betrayed time and again by those she trusts. Her mother is sick in the head. Papa is kind and funny, but he isn’t around. Grandpa is interesting. He is a painter and BD wants to be a painter too. But Grandpa is also crazy. Grandma is a devout Catholic who shames BD. Only BD’s older cousin, Willy, loves her. She will do whatever he tells her, especially drink. It tastes awful, so she washes it down with root beer. And alcohol makes BD feel great, even if it also makes her throw up. BD also has a secret friend, Ayne de Blu, who “disappears” BD’s body when Pig, who is even grosser than his name, assaults her. Ayne tells BD everything will be OK. But everything is not OK. BD’s drinking becomes uncontrollable. The worst: She loses her son. Things get better when BD meets Jon, the love of her life. He’s a drug addict trying to kick his habit; she’s an alcoholic trying to stay sober. BD suffers unbearable losses: her cousin, her son, her mother, and then Jon. How will she survive? Alone? But she is not alone. BD discovers a Higher Power. But, to this reviewer, the power also resides within BD herself, in the woman named Alycia Vreeland. Telling her saga, Vreeland outs the truth of an abused child in graphic language and painful pictures. As writer myself (see my Amazon author page and Goodreads author page), I admire Vreeland’s courage writing this unrelentingly honest memoir. BD, her alter-ego, does not mince words. She makes readers cringe. We should. She makes us cry. We should. BD provokes outrage. Bravo for her. Listen to her voice; see her in these bold images. Read Baby Darlin’ with a strong stomach and a big heart. Surrender to the power of this amazing book.

A graphic memoir of child abuse

Why writers read: “Books are people who have managed to stay alive by hiding between the covers of a book.” – E. B. White

Famous Friends: Clifford and Emily Elizabeth

Clifford, the illustrated children’s book series by Norman Bridwell, proves that a dog is a child’s best friend. Book lovers young and old see the attachment between devoted Emily Elizabeth and exuberant Clifford grow as he develops from a tiny red puppy into an oversized pooch. Read The Sister Knot about two resilient women, orphaned in WW2, who defy fate to sustain a lifelong friendship. A compelling novel about the power of sisterhood. Learn more about the book in NOVELS.

Clifford & Emily Elizabeth: A big red dog is a little girl’s best friend

Two resilient women, two separate journeys, one lasting friendship

Famous Friends: Dwight Eisenhower and Bob Hope

Comedian Hope entertained 11presidents but became friends only with Eisenhower. They hit it off in 1943 when Hope entertained the troops serving under then General Eisenhower in Algiers. When Eisenhower became President 10 years later, they continued to write and play golf. Their wives were also close. Of their wartime meeting, Hope said, “Meeting General Eisenhower in the midst of that deadly muddle was like a breath of fresh air. It quieted us, brought us back to our senses, and in every way paid us for the whole trip.” Read The Sister Knot about two resilient women, orphaned in WW2, who defy fate to sustain a lifelong friendship. A compelling novel about the power of sisterhood. Learn more about the book in NOVELS.

Eisenhower and Hope: The President and the comedian were friends in war and in peace

Two resilient women, two separate journeys, one lasting friendship

Famous Friends: Andre the Giant and Samuel Beckett

Irish playwright Samuel Beckett moved to a commune in France in 1953, the same year he published Waiting for Godot. Beckett befriended a local carpenter, Boris Roussimoff, whose son would one day become wrestler André the Giant. When the boy, age 12, grew too big for the school bus (he was already 6 feet tall and weighed 250 lbs.), Beckett drove him in his pick-up truck. During their rides, they talked about cricket. Read The Sister Knot about two resilient women, orphaned in WW2, who defy fate to sustain a lifelong friendship. A compelling novel about the power of sisterhood. Learn more about the book in NOVELS.

Beckett and Andre: The older literary and the younger physical giant were friends

Two resilient women, two separate journeys, one lasting friendship